Progress.

There's a loaded word.

There's progress in achievement, right?  Where every step forward is counted as forward motion.

There's progress in action.  Literally one step (or movement) toward the conclusion.

There's progress along paths and journeys and travels and trajectories.

There's progress in pregnancies, and education, and careers.

And then there's progress...the loaded version...the word used when achievement is not in reach...when the development is stalled or so slow it might as well be frozen. 

That progress is the word that makes the reading of its reports an exercise in grief:
Progress Reports.
Namely, those associated with special education.
Reports where progress is noted and tallied and far too often...halted.

Where that bold black "P" just stares up defiantly from the page...day to day...month to month...sometimes year to year...never, ever turning into an "A" for achieved.

That progress is like a spill of black ink...gradually staining the page till everything is soaked in the lack of movement...the lack of development...the lack of achievement.

Sometimes that "P" is a lie.  A statement of progress that was happening at one point and has stopped since.

Sometimes it's a white lie...true in its basic definition but not accounting for the understood nuance of progress as defined by change.  Incapable of accounting for, or of, change that is so minimal...so gradual...as to be indistinguishable in the days or weeks or months or years.

"How's he progressing with that?", is a question that's been posed to me far too many times of late.  A well-intentioned expression of interest and care...I know...but one that's a literal pain in the neck.

(I carry my stress in my neck and shoulders)

"Any progress yet?", is another.

Both make my eye tic a bit, as I struggle to find the perfect, neutral expression with which to respond "No change" without those words imparting something negative to the solicitor or stirring up some feeling of defeat in me. 

The checkbox next to the goal reads "P", as it has for months now.

I expect it still will, months from now.

Perhaps that "P" isn't meant for me.  Perhaps it only exists as a clinical observation...a way to box into the structure of typical development a boy...this boy: brilliant and neurodivergent and expanding exponentially in ways that don't tick boxes or fulfill milestone expectations. 

Perhaps the progress report is just a piece of paper with ink on it.  Not a complete picture...not an accurate reflection...not even a realistic observation.  One hour a week...a clinical hour at that of 45 functional minutes or so...hardly equates to a full understanding of a child's skills~behaviours~intellect...of a child's progress. A snapshot that's been altered for size and contrast and saturation...but comes up pale and blurry against the real thing.

Perhaps progress is a misnomer, after all.  A word used in place of ones with more negative connotations...such as average or basic or ordinary as applied to development.  Perhaps progress is simply what's expected, and when it comes up against something different, it stops...like a computer program when it encounters functions beyond its coded parameters.

Perhaps the best answer is the easiest:

"At his own pace."